What To Do When You're Hanging On

Today as I write this, I am sitting at Starbucks enjoying a latte and a kid-free morning thanks to the Mothers Day Out program at the First Baptist Church.  Big deal, right? Well...it is for me. TOTALLY new experience. I feel so hip and cool: writing, sipping coffee, grooving to Muddy Waters. (Thank you, Starbucks for making this Mississippi girl feel right at home with the blues. Someone must have told you I was coming.)

It's funny, listening to blues music when everything in my body screams "happy, happy, happy!" Metaphorically speaking, I'm finally enjoying some warm sunshine after a long, very cold rain. You know how sometimes you feel like you are hanging on by a thread? For a long time? You get weary. You get gloomy. You're tempted to give up hope. Everything gets a little gray. I just left that place, so I know how you feel.

I'm so glad that I didn't give in to those feelings. Yeah, some days I switched to auto-pilot... Plastered on the smile anyway. You know the drill. After a long time, though it begins to feel like it will never get better. For my family it was a series of tough-break circumstances. Maybe in your case it's an illness, job loss, divorce, or crisis of another sort. I don't know what the event is but I do know that nothing last forever. Cliche' but true. Sometimes it just takes a while. What do you do in the mean time? I'll share what helped me:

• Press in to scripture. Let God comfort you. Let Him guide you. Let Him love you through it.
• Lean in to trusted friends. It's okay to let others see you in your not so perfect state.
• Smile anyway. I read in a medical magazine that smiling and laughing can improve a blue mood
• Take a gratitude inventory. Really count your blessings. Be mindful in your everyday moments
• Reach out to someone else needing help. Practice hospitality, sharing, and encouraging others
• Objectively evaluate your circumstance. Change what you can and pray through the rest.

Don't give up - just hang on a little longer!

Sometimes things get a little worse it seems before they get better. It did for us. God rewards the faithful, though, so keep on. I am pleased to say that the series of troubles is over for the moment. My family is enjoying a reprieve from spiritual and physical battles. My husband has accepted a career change that included a relocation to Kentucky.

Everything seems so new and fresh (and 15 degrees cooler). We have been blessed with a small town in the mountains full of friendly people. Autumn is bringing crisp air, changing colors, and a whole new beginning for us. I'll post more about our adventure in getting here later.

Right now, I want to pray for you. "Father, I want to lift up this reader to you. You know what they are going through and you know exactly what they need. Bless them with, strength, direction, and endurance. Let them experience Your presence and fullness of joy. In Jesus' name, Amen"

Three Simple Ways to Get Organized and Stay Organized

I love organizing. Let me re-phrase that: I love the benefits of being organized.  When things are organized I know where they are.  My house looks tidy.  I save time. I save money. What's the biggest benefit?  I stay sane!  It drives me nuts when things are scattered all over the place, when I can't remember appointments, or getting to the grocery store and not knowing whether or not we need to buy milk.

My brain just doesn't function well in chaos.  

Here are the top three ways that I keep things running smoothly:

          1.  I write it all down. If you write it down and keep it in one place you don't have to remember it or go looking for it.  I use a combination of a home management journal, smart phone, iPad, and a weekly calendar posted on the refrigerator.  My home management journal is for things that I use less frequently. It's for my contact list, emergency info, master to-do list of some day items/projects, monthly meal plan ideas, and chore lists. My iPhone and iPad hold my everyday information such as appointments, phone numbers, Bible reading plans, e-books, etc... seriously, I'm going to have do do a whole other post on this one. Going digital keeps the info you need with you at all times. I utilize this pretty weekly planner on the refrigerator so the rest of the family knows what's going on and what's for supper. 

          2.  I keep it all together.  For this I use my mobile office.  It holds all my stuff and looks great too. I can grab it and go.

The idea came from A Bowl Full of Lemons. My mobile office holds my laptop and iPad.  My files include our monthly budget and bill paying info, homeschool lesson planning, devotional materials, goal/projects list, holiday planning, craft info and blog journal. The outside pockets hold my power charging cords and office supplies. My "office" lately is my Big Cozy-Comfy Chair. What could be better?

I keep all our financial papers together in one huge binder. I three-hole punch everything.

This binder has been especially helpful. It's organized into sections such as bills due, bills paid each month, insurance EOB's (great for matching the medical charges with the actual benefits paid), bank statements, info needed for filing tax returns, etc.  At the end of the year, the contents go in the tax box with our receipts then to the attic for storage.

          3.  I plan ahead. Utilizing a monthly meal plan helps save time and money. I always know what we are having and I have dramatically reduced the number of trips to the grocery store. In the past, I listed 30 meals and the ingredients needed for each meal on this meal planner. Then I plugged it in on a monthly calendar that I posted on the fridge.  I also typed our favorite recipes and had them in a cute little binder on the counter.  NOW, that I have my iPad (and we all know how I love my iPad), I use a menu planning app called Paprika.  It's awesome! I can use all my own recipes or search for new ideas and save them all in one spot. It will even print out a grocery list for my planned meals.

I also lesson plan in advance for our homeschool. I save so much time in the long run by getting things together before I need them. I utilize work boxes to keep things handy and broken down into days. I put the day's assignments and any craft materials inside the box. They stack nice and neat for presentable appearance and easy access. 

Staying organized keeps life simple for me. It gives me more time for the FUN things. How do you manage the chaos? I'd love to hear some of your sanity-saving tips.

Finding Time For Devotion

Sometimes finding a set time everyday for prayer and devotion is difficult- especially if you have little ones tugging at you.  Click here for ways that I manage even on the most hectic days.  You'll be redirected to Practical Faith For Everyday Life.  Let me know if you find the tips helpful.  I'd love to hear yours as well!

Super Easy Life Hacks For A Great New Year

I have two great posts coming for you in 2012 about ways to organize and simplify your life.  Until then, I thought you may enjoy the Top Ten List from this past year. Happy New Year!

From Practical Faith for Everyday Life, Posted December 30, 2010

Many people this time of year reflect upon the past year and look ahead with new goals, resolutions, or at the very least: wishes for improvement.  I have a confession. I don't really make New Year resolutions.  Not that I'm perfect, I just get bogged down in the details...and the guilt when I don't fulfill them.  Why set my self up for failure? (All though I have heard that writing them down and breaking them up into attainable steps works. Hey, wait- I already do some of that with housekeeping.  Keep reading. You'll see.)  Sometimes I just take the easy way out.

Here are some of my "easy way out" strategies.  Some of them require just a tiny bit of effort on the front end.  Over time, they really save me BIG in time, effort, and money.  Some keep me healthy. Heck, some of them even make me look better!

1. Post a grocery list on the refrigerator.  Not on the counter.  Not in your head.  Put it ON the fridge. Whether you use a dry erase board, a pre-printed list, or a plain ol' piece of paper (that's what I do), you can quickly post grocery items as you run out.  Train the kiddos and hubby to do it too. This really does help eliminate forgotten items and trips back to the store. Now, if you really want to save yourself in the long run, take the time to organize your pantry.  Don't go all Martha Stewart, just put all the cans of tomato soup together. (No offense, Martha, its just that most of us don't have have a staff to help and tons of money to spend on closet hardware.)  Group like items together.  At one quick glance you can see what you have and what you need to add to the grocery list.
2. Speaking of your pantry, as you run out of items replace them with the healthier, less processed version when you're at the store. One by one you're feeding your family more nutritious meals. You're not throwing food out either-wasting money.  It's not so overwhelming this way.  Small steps can make good habits last longer.
3. Keep a small notepad in your purse.  I use the notepad on my iPhone.  Train yourself to jot everything down.  This way you can keep track of errands you need to run, gifts you need to purchase, items you need to add to the grocery list, etc.  Not everybody is a list maker, I know, but it does eliminate that feeling of, "I know there was one more thing but I just can't remember."  This way you can save room in your brain for the really important stuff!
4. If you have trouble finding time to spend with God, break it up into smaller, do-able chunks during the day.  See my post on How I Abide In Him for easy ideas.
5. Trying to get your house in order (especially after Christmas guests, and kids home on school holiday) can seem impossible.  Focus on smaller tasks.  Spend just 10-15 minutes once or twice a day on the trouble spots and you'll be organized in no time.  This is how I keep my housekeeping chores from getting away.
6. If you're having a hard time exercising, this one is for you!  At least three times a week, put on some great music, set the timer for 15 minutes, grab the kids and dance your buns off.  March, run, jump, dance- whatever- just go all out for 15 minutes.  Increase your time as your endurance builds.  What's better than having fun with the kids and getting a good cardio workout too?
7. Lay out your clothes (and the kids') the night before.  You'll be amazed at the time this saves in the morning. No more "what to wear?"  No more wasting precious time trying on things. No more fights with the kids.  I layout my clothes on Sunday night for the week ahead. No kidding, I do! Use an over-the-door hook or just put those outfits together in the first space of your closet rod.  
8. Even if you're a stay at home mom, you need to have at least one "go-to" outfit ready. It doesn't have to be fancy, just something that says "I'm fabulous." You'll feel fabulous too running errands in something other than sweats. Jeans and a trendy top (those tattoo t-shirts hide stains) paired with cute low-heels and big earrings are a must. Don't spend much. You can pull together a great, yet inexpensive outfit at most discount or dollar stores if you take the time to look. I'm serious about the big (preferably hoop) earrings.  My theory is that they draw attention away from the dark circles under my eyes. 
9. Keep those dry trouble spots smooth with a stick moisturizer. (I've been using one made by Palmer's but Santa left Heel-Tastic in my stocking. I like it too.)  You can find one in the health & beauty section EVERYWHERE.  Keep it by your bedside or by your toothbrush if you have trouble remembering (like me) to use it. I swipe my heels, knees and elbows in the morning and the evening.  It's a five second spa treatment with no greasy hands!
10. Just like the go-to outfit, I have a quick go-to makeup routine for the days I want to look put together but just don't have the time.  Tinted moisturizer + Lip Crayon + Mascara = Instant (but super quick) GLAM.  Use a mocha or mauve lip crayon in the crease of your eyelids and blend with your fingertips.  With the residue from your fingertips, swipe along your cheek bones. If you use a waterproof mascara, you can use the crayon underneath your lower lashes for a soft liner affect.  Of course, don't forget your lips! With only three products and your fingers you can be gorgeous in less than three minutes. Really- three minutes! 

These tips are so simple yet can revolutionize your day to day routine. I'd love to hear some of your short cuts and ideas!  Let me know if you try mine and how it goes. Why should getting organized, living healthy and looking great be expensive or hard?

Super Easy Life Hacks For A Great New Year ~ 2012 Edition

Need to simplify? Organize? Are you overwhelmed? Hate resolutions? Me too! Here are some ways that I create order out of chaos:

1. Messy house? No time for a "deep clean?" Spend just five minutes morning or evening (both- if you're ambitious) picking up the clutter.  Keeping the common areas free of clutter goes a long way in making your home appear clean and presentable.  Nobody really cares about the dust bunnies behind the TV anyway.
2. Write EVERYTHING down -  on a post-it note, on your smart phone, or on a refrigerator memo board. Keep all your notes in a central location.  This way you don't have to rely on your memory on days when you're brain is overloaded. 
3. Turn the TV off and turn the uplifting music on.  Even if you're not paying attention to it, what you hear filters in to your heart and mind.  Brighten your spirit and you brighten your day.
4. Drink LOTS and LOTS of water.  Water is an inexpensive way to detox and beautify your body.  Adequate hydration eliminates waste, lessens allergies, stimulates proper body weight, and moisturizes your hair and skin. Talk about multi-tasking!
5. Learn to SAY "NO" with confidence and without feeling guilty. Know your limits and enforce your boundaries to keep sane.  You don't have to do EVERYthing. Give yourself permission to prioritize according to your family's needs.

To see last year's tips, click here. I wish you a very, very Happy New Year.  May God bless you with peace, health, and prosperity.

Are You Coping With Grief or Loss?

The holidays can be difficult- especially if you are dealing with tragedy.  If you need a shoulder to lean on, please follow this link.  You'll be redirected to a post I published last year.  In it I share how my husband and I recovered from loss during the holiday season. I hope you find it helpful.

What's Missing

You’re making an effort to take better care of yourself.  Say you’re having a good week:  you’ve exercised, eaten nutritious meals, and maybe even had a spa day.  Great job! Is something still...missing?  To find out, please join me at Living Self Care.    

  

Super Easy BBQ

I've posted a recipe over at MommieKate. (It's a part of my #3in30 post.)  Come on over for a super delicious, easy- peasy, melt in your mouth and slap-your-mamma pulled pork sammich!

(Okay, don't really slap your Mamma.  She's liable to slap you back! It's just a southern expression for sho- nuff real good food.)

Joy in the Giving

Often when we think of Christian love and charity, we think big: mission trips, feeding centers, large sums of money.  We think of our local tithes and offerings.  We think of the parable of the Widow's Mite.  I have found myself thinking of her a lot lately.  I think of how in her poverty, she gave all that she had.  I think of how her humble heart caught the eye of the Master.   I think of how He praised her.  I've been contemplating the principles of Godly Giving and whether or not I measure up to His expectations.

While studying I noticed that God expects us to be joyful as well as generous in our giving.  I also realized that giving all I have is not just about money.  God expects more of me than just my envelope in the offering plate.  While I am obedient in my finances, I'm not sure that my giving has honored Him the way that Widow's Mite did.

I want to honor Him so badly- to catch His eye.  I want to make Him proud.  I want to give ALL.  What a lofty goal. So daunting, really.  Is it even attainable? Can I really give Him ALL?   As I shifted my focus from money, I saw so many other opportunities.

I can smile more, not just when I'm happy.  I can smile at the cashier when I'm held up in line because she's changing the tape roll and taking forever.  I can smile at the driver who takes my turn at the stop sign.  I can smile at my son when he's struggling to do a big boy job all by himself when I could do it so much faster. (I can even smile at these rowdy teenagers who are distracting me while I write this post utilizing free Wi Fi at McDonald's. )

In my routine shopping, I can get a few "extras" for others. I can pick up some extra can goods at the grocery store for the local food bank.  I can pick up an extra pack of diapers & wipes for the women's shelter.  I can take a book of stamps and some paper to the alcohol & drug treatment center.  I can take my old magazines to the nursing home.

I can make (and give Him) better choices.  When challenged I can choose mercy.  I can choose forgiveness.  I can choose patience.  I can choose kindness. I can listen patiently as if for the first time when my grandmother repeats the same story for the 100th time.  I can be sweet instead of sarcastic when my husband forgets that it's date night and volunteers to work a later shift.  I can choose peace instead of arguing my point when a neighbor oversteps her bounds.

I'm learning that giving all I have is so much simpler than I thought.  It's so much broader than I imagined.  If I choose a positive perspective about it, I can even have fun looking for opportunities to give more, to do more, to truly serve Him in my everyday life. I can give myself, my heart, my obedience as well as my money.

A Proverbs Wife $$$ Tips & Links

I am super excited to have a guest interview today!  Saidah writes at AProverbsWife.com, where she shares her journey in modeling herself after Proverbs 31:10-31. She writes about how scripture molds her into being a better Christian, wife, and mother. You’re sure to be inspired by reading her blog. She also shares some really great coupons and bargains there. You can also find her chatting it up with her readers Facebook and Twitter.

How did you get started clipping coupons and participating in online surveys?

I began using coupons and taking surveys in 2008 as a means to stretch my husband's income. Our budget was extremely tight and I decide to help my husband by being a better steward over our grocery budget. He was totally against me working outside of the home so, instead of trying to make money I decided to start helping us save money. Shortly after learning to use coupons I began investigating ways to make money from home. One of the ways that intrigued me was giving my opinion for compensation. I didn't know if anyone could really make money taking surveys, but once I signed up for my first survey company, I was convinced that it was something I could do. I'd spend a little time each week taking surveys and then cash out at the end of each month.

How much time do you spend per week on the above? If you could put a dollar amount per hour that you spend, what would you estimate earning potential to be?

I don't spend as much time taking surveys anymore because I have other streams of income that require my attention, but when I began I'd spend about 2-3 hours a week taking surveys. In this time I would earn anywhere from $150 - $200 a month. It's not a whole lot, but it allowed me to help put the "budge" back into our budget. Now I make less. In February I made $50 taking surveys.

How do you balance your online activity with your other homemaking responsibilities?

My computer is on a great deal of the day from October - January, simply because there are so many amazing deals and I want my readers to be able to shop for Christmas a frugally as possible. I am a firm believer that with a little bit of planning Christmas gift can be paid for without breaking the budget. I know from experience that it can even be funded for FREE. The remaining months of the year, I pray a lot and talk with my husband about my schedule.

I never feel like I'm balancing well but I do have a schedule. I am a master schedule writer and chief life organizer (in my mind. However, I understand that no amount of scheduling will ever be perfect unless God creates it. This is why I pray regularly for direction and guidance about the way that I use my time, how I interact with my family and about my blog.

How do you find all those amazing deals?

I find many deals right in my inbox. I am partnered with some great affiliate companies and brands who send deals and offers to my inbox daily. I also have amazing blog friends and readers who forward deals to me as well. You'd be surprised to know that I find amazing coupons codes and FREE sample offers in magazines or while watching television. As a blogger who posts deals so often, I don't look at everything the way most people do. I'm always looking for a deal. For instance, while watching a television ad, I heard about a new chicken sandwich variety, but at the end of the commercial I also heard, "Come on in and get a FREE sample". When I find offline deals I usually make a note to confirm them and post the offer on my blog.

What advice would you give to newbies? 

To new bloggers I would say make the choice earlier on who you will worship. Blogging can be a popularity contest filled with many "in-crowds". It can also be a field that can put you in a position to be idolized. This being the case, I advise choosing early on to honor God in everything you do. If you decide to monetize your blog never put money before your readers and if you do, be swift to apologize for any lapse in judgment.

What's the most challenging part of your typical week?

The most challenging is balancing it all.

I love time with God.
I love time with my family.
I love homeschooling.
I love blogging.
I love homemaking.

These areas of my life threaten to overtake one another on a daily basis. That's the most challenging part of my week. Keeping everything in it's proper proportion.

What's the most exciting part of your typical week?

It's different every week. One week it could be learning that a company has decided to partner with me on a project. Another week it could be a surprise date night with my husband or a special quiet moment with the Lord. It varies and I'm easily excitable.

What excited me this week was my daughter scoring a 90% on her spelling test for the second straight week. This is huge because she is a delayed reader due to dyslexia. That's what excited me this week.


What role does frugality play in your faith walk?

My family uses every opportunity to save so that we can give more away. We endeavor to be debt FREE because we know that God can't use our finances as long as we are in debt. Our family goal is to live simply and pay off our mortgage so that we can be available for God's use in the international missionary field.


What do you do for "down time" entertainment/ relaxation?

The ultimate downtime is reading the Bible and listening to Christian music. It is the one activity that leaves me rejuvenated and inspired. Other things I enjoy are spending time with my family and gardening. While I'm not that great in the garden, I just like being outdoors close to Gods creation. It humbles me to watch the growth cycle of the earth. Once you've experienced it, it's hard to deny the sovereignty and existence of God.

Website: AProverbsWife offers inspiration, frugal tips and great conversation for living life as today's Proverbs 31 wives & women!

On Twitter: @proverbswife

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Spring-time Super Savings

Saving money is high priority around here these days. I'm always looking for ways to make less do more.

photo from Amy Bayliss at pixosphere.com

I'm excited about some new ideas that I'll be sharing with you soon.  In the mean time...here are a few links to some of my first posts on ways to save. What will you be doing with your savings?

Frugality is Godly
Ways to Stretch That Dollar! Part 1
Ways to Stretch That Dollar! Part 2
Ways to Stretch That Dollar! Part 3
Coupon Rescue

Healthy Relationships

Cultivating healthy relationships and eliminating harmful ones is essential to proper self-care.  Whether it is with a spouse, child, parent, sibling, friend or co-worker, a healthy relationship is one that is characterized by RESPECT- for us and for the other person.

To finish reading, please click here to visit Living Self Care where I am guest posting today.  

Coupon Rescue!

Ever want to try couponing but are overwhelmed? How to start? Where to go? How much time will it take? Jen Ryan comes to the rescue with her fabulous guest post at Linda Carmical. She saves the rest of valuable time by listing her Top Ten Sites and what she likes about each one.  If you ever wanted to give it a go, now's the time!

Click here to begin you money saving adventure!

Squeezing in Time for Self Care

It's official: my very first guest post. I feel so...famous! lol - I have the biggest geeky grin on my face! My husband will have to do the dishes tonight, you know, now that I'm (say it with me) famous. OK, maybe a little over the top.  I'm just so happy!

I am thrilled to announce that I am guest posting today at Living Self Care. This is a fabulous site dedicated to helping women take better care of themselves. To learn some of the ways that I squeeze in "me time" in my busy day click here.

I really would appreciate the visit and some blog hugging comments on my (squeal!) very first guest post.  See you there!

Simple Strategies For Self-Care

I am thrilled to announce that I am guest posting today at Living Self Care. This is a fabulous site dedicated to helping women take better care of themselves. To learn some of the ways that I squeeze in "me time" in my busy day click here.

I really would appreciate the visit and some blog hugging comments on my (squeal!) very first guest post.  See you there!

Super Quick and Easy Life Hacks for a Happy New Year

Many people this time of year reflect upon the past year and look ahead with new goals, resolutions, or at the very least: wishes for improvement.  I have a confession. I don't really make New Year resolutions.  Not that I'm perfect, I just get bogged down in the details...and the guilt when I don't fulfill them.  Why set my self up for failure? (All though I have heard that writing them down and breaking them up into attainable steps works. Hey, wait- I already do some of that with housekeeping.  Keep reading. You'll see.)  Sometimes I just take the easy way out.

Here are some of my "easy way out" strategies.  Some of them require just a tiny bit of effort on the front end.  Over time, they really save me BIG in time, effort, and money.  Some keep me healthy. Heck, some of them even make me look better!

1. Post a grocery list on the refrigerator.  Not on the counter.  Not in your head.  Put it ON the fridge. Whether you use a dry erase board, a pre-printed list, or a plain ol' piece of paper (that's what I do), you can quickly post grocery items as you run out.  Train the kiddos and hubby to do it too. This really does help eliminate forgotten items and trips back to the store. Now, if you really want to save yourself in the long run, take the time to organize your pantry.  Don't go all Martha Stewart, just put all the cans of tomato soup together. (No offense, Martha, its just that most of us don't have have a staff to help and tons of money to spend on closet hardware.)  Group like items together.  At one quick glance you can see what you have and what you need to add to the grocery list.
2. Speaking of your pantry, as you run out of items replace them with the healthier, less processed version when you're at the store. One by one you're feeding your family more nutritious meals. You're not throwing food out either-wasting money.  It's not so overwhelming this way.  Small steps can make good habits last longer.
3. Keep a small notepad in your purse.  I use the notepad on my iPhone.  Train yourself to jot everything down.  This way you can keep track of errands you need to run, gifts you need to purchase, items you need to add to the grocery list, etc.  Not everybody is a list maker, I know, but it does eliminate that feeling of, "I know there was one more thing but I just can't remember."  This way you can save room in your brain for the really important stuff!
4. If you have trouble finding time to spend with God, break it up into smaller, do-able chunks during the day.  See my post on How I Abide In Him for easy ideas.
5. Trying to get your house in order (especially after Christmas guests, and kids home on school holiday) can seem impossible.  Focus on smaller tasks.  Spend just 10-15 minutes once or twice a day on the trouble spots and you'll be organized in no time.  This is how I keep my housekeeping chores from getting away.
6. If you're having a hard time exercising, this one is for you!  At least three times a week, put on some great music, set the timer for 15 minutes, grab the kids and dance your buns off.  March, run, jump, dance- whatever- just go all out for 15 minutes.  Increase your time as your endurance builds.  What's better than having fun with the kids and getting a good cardio workout too?
7. Lay out your clothes (and the kids') the night before.  You'll be amazed at the time this saves in the morning. No more "what to wear?"  No more wasting precious time trying on things. No more fights with the kids.  I layout my clothes on Sunday night for the week ahead. No kidding, I do! Use an over-the-door hook or just put those outfits together in the first space of your closet rod.  
8. Even if you're a stay at home mom, you need to have at least one "go-to" outfit ready. It doesn't have to be fancy, just something that says "I'm fabulous." You'll feel fabulous too running errands in something other than sweats. Jeans and a trendy top (those tattoo t-shirts hide stains) paired with cute low-heels and big earrings are a must. Don't spend much. You can pull together a great, yet inexpensive outfit at most discount or dollar stores if you take the time to look. I'm serious about the big (preferably hoop) earrings.  My theory is that they draw attention away from the dark circles under my eyes. 
9. Keep those dry trouble spots smooth with a stick moisturizer. (I've been using one made by Palmer's but Santa left Heel-Tastic in my stocking. I like it too.)  You can find one in the health & beauty section EVERYWHERE.  Keep it by your bedside or by your toothbrush if you have trouble remembering (like me) to use it. I swipe my heels, knees and elbows in the morning and the evening.  It's a five second spa treatment with no greasy hands!
10. Just like the go-to outfit, I have a quick go-to makeup routine for the days I want to look put together but just don't have the time.  Tinted moisturizer + Lip Crayon + Mascara = Instant (but super quick) GLAM.  Use a mocha or mauve lip crayon in the crease of your eyelids and blend with your fingertips.  With the residue from your fingertips, swipe along your cheek bones. If you use a waterproof mascara, you can use the crayon underneath your lower lashes for a soft liner affect.  Of course, don't forget your lips! With only three products and your fingers you can be gorgeous in less than three minutes. Really- three minutes! 

These tips are so simple yet can revolutionize your day to day routine. I'd love to hear some of your short cuts and ideas!  Let me know if you try mine and how it goes. Why should getting organized, living healthy and looking great be expensive or hard?

How To Survive Loss During The Holiday Season

You were expecting something more festive, right? I know, jingle bells and all...but tragedies don't wait for convenient dates on the calender. Grief and coping with loss can be even more difficult when everyone else is celebrating.  I write this post hoping to help if you or someone you know is experiencing a loss or crisis.  It can be so hard but you can survive.  I know because I did...and this is part of my story.

Last year between Christmas and New Year my unborn baby died. For several days our world stood still while we waited to see a heartbeat.  We had seen it just two weeks before- blinking like a Christmas tree light.  And then nothing, only silent stillness on a sonogram.  The last thing I remember before surgery was trying so hard not to sob and wondering what in the world had caused that sweet little light to quit blinking.  While everyone else was celebrating my husband and I were grieving.  For weeks after, we waited on negative test results to rule out a rare form of cancer. I want to share what I learned through the healing process. Maybe it can give you a little hope.  Or at least I want to let you know that you're not alone.  Someone knows and cares that your heart is breaking.  I do and that's why I'm offering what worked for me.  Use what you can and dismiss the rest.

1. Allow yourself to grieve.  Forget the stiff upper chin.  You don't get extra points for suffering in silence. It's okay to show your hurt. Whether its death, divorce, or a pink slip: loss HURTS and pretending that it doesn't helps no one. That being said, you can't wallow in it forever either.  We had a private memorial service at Church one week after my surgery.  I let myself cry and mourn that week but had determined that once the service was over I WOULD BEGIN TO HEAL.  It's important to allow yourself to move forward.
2. Hit the autopilot button. I had a hard time dealing with people's (mostly stupid) statements so I just went into robot mode and mechanically replied "thank you for your prayers" to whatever comment was offered.  I figure that most people don't mean to be hurtful- they just truly don't know what to say. Side note: if your loved one has a miscarriage DO NOT say things like "something was probably wrong with it anyway," "at least you didn't get to hold it," or "did the doctor say what you did wrong?" Just say "I'm sorry for your loss.  I'll be praying for you." 
3. Quit asking "why."  Talk about it with a friend or a professional but don't get stuck in the "why" stage. There may be a medical reason that can physically help you; however, there is no emotionally acceptable or comforting answer.  Bad things happen.  Very bad things happen and trying to make sense out of the senseless only tortures you and prolongs your pain.  I remember crying out to God.  I didn't get a reason why but I did get reminded that He knew exactly how it felt to lose a child. 
4. Resume your daily routines- whether you feel like it or not.  Staying engaged is essential to keep short term grief from turning into long term depression. Shower, eat, work, exercise.  Don't give up on life just because you're hurting.  Don't give up on God, either- even if your faith is wavering.  Keep plugging along.  Keep moving forward.  Baby steps count! You'll get a little bit stronger and better everyday. You will get better.
5. Realize that you won't ever get over it but you will move past it.  There is a difference. It is vitally important to remember that while the feelings of loss and sadness will remain, the intense pain will one day subside.  Don't feel guilty for beginning to get better, for enjoying others, and life again, or for growing beyond the grief. Life never stands still.  Everything changes: the good, the bad- it all moves along. 

Every one's process and time is unique.  Don't push yourself too fast or too hard.  Don't beat yourself up- for feeling bad or for feeling good.  Emotions vary- it's normal.  If you think you are not getting better or if you ever think about harming yourself or others, PLEASE GET HELP.  Your pastor, doctor, or mental health care center can direct you to available resources.

Over the past two years my husband and I have experienced several losses. I still cry a little sometimes. I am still healing.  I'm still growing. You will too.

HomeSchool Preschool ROCKS!

Six weeks ago I officially joined the many who have decided (at least for now) to educate my son at home. Let me just say: IT IS AWESOME!  I admit, I didn't feel that way at first.  I was excited and then (while doing endless internet research) it hit me.  Hit me hard.  I mean, this is one of the biggest decisions that will affect my little boy FOR LIFE.  I started to panic. Have you seen the ka-zillion choices out there? There are so many different education styles and ten times that in curriculum choices. I became overwhelmed.  Nauseated even. And then...

I found some lovely blogs that helped bring me back to "OK, I can do this" state.  More on them later (plus links). While I am in no way an expert, I did figure out a few things over the summer.  Here is a summary of my Crash Course for Home School Newbies:

• Start with the legalities. Find out what the laws are in your state.  This will help guide you through your curriculum choices. You may not even want or need a curriculum. My state is one that has few requirements and gives parents great freedom.
• Consider your own skills and limitations as well as your family's.  Do you follow a tight schedule, a flexible routine, or do you fly by the seat of your pants?  Are you creative?  Do you need the guidance of a curriculum? How much guidance?  What is your budget? I chose mine based on flexibility and budget.
• What support will you have? Is your spouse on board?  Will he be able to help - to what degree?  Is there a homeschooling group in your area? I joined a local Christian HS group to get ideas & guidance from veteran parents and for the field trip opportunities. 
• Have a firm idea of why you want to pursue this. You will want it in neon flashing lights.  I'm not kidding- it starts with the curriculum choices, the HOURS of prep work, and ends with a lot of negative questions and comments from others. It's fun, it's rewarding, but it is HARD WORK.
• Relax and keep it all in perspective.  Nothing is set it stone. You will explore and change styles, methods, and curriculum many times as you grow and your school days go by.  You'll learn as you go. You may even change your mind all together about home education. Homeschooling is ALL ABOUT FLEXIBILITY and doing what is best for each stage of your family's life.  

Don't stress.  Trust God to guide you.  Trust yourself.  Have fun.

I want to give blog hugs to Sue, thehomeschoolchick and to Erica at confessionsofahomeschooler. These ladies gave me confidence, a place to start, and shared a sense of humor in the process. They have great links to other helpful sites. If you are homeschooling you probably already know them.  If you are still in the consideration stage, go check out their sites- you'll be glad you did. Also, to find out your state's laws visit http://www.hslda.org/laws/default.asp.  HAPPY HOMESCHOOLING!



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How I Abide in Him

I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing.  (KJV) John 15:5


For so long I knew that verse to mean I am nothing without Jesus.  While that is true on a certain level, there is so much more.  Meditate on that verse. Dig deeper.  Ponder it awhile...

He supplies me.  If He lives in me and I remain in Him, I am fruitful.  I am productive. I am successful. It is Christ that gives me what I need to accomplish the life before me.  He works in me.  He works through me.  Have you ever wondered how?  Have you ever felt like it wasn't working? Why?

It's that word "abide."  There's the key.  I must abide in Him.  From experience let me tell you that you cannot abide in Him with just a weekly Church service and a nightie-nite prayer.  Abide means to dwell, live, remain, endure.  It's a pretty weighty word.  Now it seems complicated- almost daunting.  Like any other relationship, it does take time.  There is just no way around it.  It doesn't; however, have to be complicated.  Trying to set aside a particular block of time was not working for me.  I ended up overwhelmed, discouraged, and feeling guilty because it was a task I couldn't accomplish.  That's just it, though.  Jesus is not a task.  He is a person.  One who wants you to actually ENJOY time with Him. If spending time with our Lord has been difficult for you, don't give up!  I de-mystified and simplified. Making small adjustments in my routine has made all the difference in the world for me.  Let me show you what I mean...

I do five very simple things every day to keep in touch with Jesus. These things don't take much time at all when I spread them throughout my day.

• Morning Devotion.  I use From Faith to Faith by Kenneth & Gloria Copeland.  You can purchase the book or view it for free online. They will even email it to you upon request. I have the link on my iPhone so I can view it anytime/ anywhere.
• Daily Scripture Meditation. The Wonderful Names of Our Wonderful Lord is an excellent one minute devotion by Charles Hurburt and T.C. Horton.  While it is available in paperback, I use the mobile version on my iPhone. 
• Scripture Confession.  I have compiled a notebook of scriptures that I recite out loud throughout the day.  I rotate them.  One day I'll say the ones on health, then one day on parenting, one day on finances.  You get the idea.
• I pray all day long.  Not the stop what you're doing, formal kind of prayers- hardly!  I say the "Good Morning Lord!  Help me face the day" kind of prayer.  You know: like,"O Lord, show me how to handle this."  "Son is jumping on my last nerve, what do You want me to do with him? "Thank you for putting the milk on sale!"  I talk to God all day long like I would to my husband, my friends, or anyone else.  I'm not disrespectful but I am familiar.
• Evening Bible Time.  Yes, yes, you know me well... I have an iPhone app for that too!  (Face it: its just FUN that way!) I like the Robert Roberts plan.  Two- Four chapters a night takes all of 15 minutes.   

Of course, if you can do more that's great.  If not, do what you can. Jesus knows and He understands. Keeping it simple, fun, and weaving it into my minute-by-minute daily routine has made it do-able for me.  My faith is no longer an ideal.  It is PRACTICAL.  It is real and IT WORKS.

Chic Click Carnival

I am so excited about participating in the Chic Click Carnival hosted by Chic Chick Media. My site is all about saving money, living simply, and enjoying the Blessings of our Lord. If you've read some of my first posts about saving money, you know I LOVE coupons!   Sooooooo...

Today I am featuring my favorite peep of the week: Valerie, TheCuteCouponer.  I found out about her blog over at BlogFrog.  Loving coupons, I had to go visit her site at http://www.thecutecouponer.blogspot.com. Look though her archives for some great ways to save when shopping.  While you're browsing, check out Visit Our Peeps.  Have Fun!